Do you know the difference between Porn Related Sex and Healthy Sex?

Do you know why this is not healthy? What messages does watching porn send to young people?

This simple chart is a great way to explain to your kids what we hope for them, which is a healthy relationship when they are ready. Watching pornography or sexually explicit media is NOT sexual health education and the values related to it do not enhance healthy relationships at any age.

PORN-RELATED SEX HEALTHY SEX

Sex is using someone Sex is caring for someone

Sex is “doing to” someone Sex is sharing with a partner

Sex is a performance for others Sex is a private experience

Sex is compulsive Sex is a natural drive

Sex is a public commodity Sex is a personal treasure

Sex is watching others Sex is about genuine connection

Sex is separate from love Sex is an expression of love

Sex can be hurtful Sex is nurturing

Sex is emotionally distant Sex is emotionally close

Sex can happen anytime Sex requires certain conditions

Sex is unsafe Sex is safe

Sex can be degrading Sex is always respectful

Sex can be irresponsible Sex is approached responsibly

Sex is devoid of morality Sex requires morals and values

Sex lacks healthy communication Sex requires healthy communication

Sex involves deception Sex requires honesty

Sex is based on visual imagery Sex involves all the senses

Sex has no ethical limits Sex has ethical boundaries

Sex requires a double life Sex enhances who you really are

Sex compromises your values Sex reflects your values

Sex feels shameful Sex enhances self-esteem

Sex is impulse gratification Sex is lasting satisfaction

© 2008, Wendy Maltz & Larry Maltz, from The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused By Pornography (p. 182). www.HealthySex.com (poster #1)